When Monogamy Becomes Monotony

Thousands of married people are joining websites specifically designed to help you find a bit on the side. Is one partner not enough?

Is this proof of something weÂ’ve all suspected at one time or another: that monogamy is not natural?

What about these websites???

Would you visit one if your love life was that boring???​

 

Great topic Angel!

I need these websites explained to me as well. But I suppose that this is a symptom of progress, I mean infidelity has been around since the imposition of monogamy, so why not have it transform with the world wide web.

Personally, I do believe in monogamy. I was in a love-less marriage for many years and then was relationship free for nearly 4 years. And although I was lonely in my marriage, I was never lonely if you know what I mean. Getting to know me, who I was was enough for me. When it was my time to get back into the swing of things, I never needed web sites. That being said, there are lonely people out there as well as desperate, so these sites do fill a need I suppose.

 

For me... well, let's just say I don't play well with others. But I have a couple of friends that can share, and it works out well for them.

But we see both in nature. Many animals mate for life, while others mate for the minute. Why would we think we would be so different? Or that is has to be just one way?

As for the sites... I think if both partners are honestly looking for that, and there is no deception, then more power to them. From what I understand, these sites are supposed to be screened, so that it is supposedly safer than approaching someone in person. It is also supposed to be more time efficient. He he... thanks to Google for helping me research the oddest things!

I know I would not be able to look elsewhere, but I am not the 'all people police' and it is not for me to judge. Being true to oneself is not always the same path that all take.

 

We are hard wired for monogamy and tribal groups. However, the hard wiring or instinct, is more loose than most species. At the moment, the thrust of human evolution is altering our instincts to adapt us to live in a technological crowded civilization. We are at loose ends without historical referents for our behavior. (At least we're better off than rats. They, when subject to the level of stressors we are, run mad and slaughter each other.)