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10 Common Wedding Reception Mistakes

Discussion in 'Sex, Love and Romance' started by Lynne, Jun 18, 2006.

  1. Lynne

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    Every bride wants a fairytale wedding. Therefore, this article is to try and minimize problems that may occur during a wedding reception. Listed below are the more common mistakes made by brides and grooms during your wedding reception. We will tell you what to do!

    DonÂ’t leave early. Your guests came from near and far to see you on your wedding day. Not staying the whole time of the reception would be a slap in the face. This will be the only time most of your family and friends will be able to see you as you will be very busy with last minute preparations the days leading up to the wedding.

    Setup all the tables. Your wedding vendors will need to know where to set-up. Be sure there is a table for the wedding cake, music entertainment, catered food, sign-in near the entrance, gift table, tables and chairs for all your guests to eat and any other tables you may have planned for specialty items.

    Preplan with your vendors a day or two before the wedding. Be sure all your wedding vendors know exactly what you want. Clarify times and location so you donÂ’t need to worry about them.

    DonÂ’t arrive late to the reception. It is customary that guests do not start eating until the bride and groom start the food line. Be sure to get as many of your pictures taken BEFORE the wedding. There are many ways to accomplish this. One is to have the entire brideÂ’s family pictures taken. Then, have the bride return to the dressing room. Next, take pictures of the groom and his family as guests can see the groom before the wedding. This way you will not compromise the groom seeing the bride before the wedding. Therefore, all that is left after the ceremony are pictures of the happy couple.

    DonÂ’t seat the young at heart directly in front of the music entertainment. Older generations are at a wedding typically to socialize with their family and friends. If they cannot hear each other talk, an unhappy situation may occur. So, if by choice, seat the young at heart near the wedding party but away from the entertainerÂ’s speakers.

    DonÂ’t have one particular type of music. There are many different types of people in the world. And yes, they include your family and friends. For example, the bride and groom may love country music. It doesnÂ’t mean you have to play country music the whole night. There is a lot of celebration music besides what you like.

    Start the food line or meal as soon as possible. Guests plan their meal times the day of your wedding around your reception. Guest will not eat a big meal before your wedding because they know they will be eating at your reception. DonÂ’t starve them.

    Know what it will cost you if the reception goes into overtime. Ask the reception facility exactly how long you have the hall to rent and what time you must be out. Please allow time for cleanup if you are the ones doing it. What is the overtime charge for the facility, music entertainment, photography, etc?

    Greet and say hello to all your guests. Finally and most importantly, greet all your guests. Make an effort to have a conversation with each and every person. They are there to celebrate your marriage. Give them the common courtesy of thanking them for coming to your wedding.

    DonÂ’t get drunk and obnoxious. Keep in mind the only time brides and grooms eat during the wedding day rituals are at the wedding reception. ThereÂ’s not much food in your stomach and alcohol will affect you much faster. Try and eat throughout the day and watch how much you drink. You want your guests to remember how beautiful the bride looked, not how you acted.


    About the Author
    About The Author: Matt Campbell is the owner and webmaster for Weddingmuseum.com. Weddingmuseum.com is a place to plan, book and rate your wedding day. You can email him at matt@weddingmuseum.com or visit http://www.WeddingMuseum.com
     
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    I did the "big" wedding thing. Fortunately I did not make any of the mistakes you mentioned, but here's what I learned:

    1) This is the bride/groom's day. DO NOT plan your wedding to please anyone else.

    2) Give up some control to your caterer's. They hopefully are professionals.

    Although people still say to this day, it was one of the best weddings they ever went to, I had an awful time. Too many people to mingle with (and it was only 100, small by comparison), I had no time to enjoy myself. Now that I am single again, I promised myself if I ever get married again, it's going to be a small intimate affair. Of course when my daughter gets married.......YIKES!

    Tegan

    PS Please excuse any spelling mistakes, can't find spell check. :)
     
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    LOL! I heard that. I'll take a look into this one and see if I can install it without breaking anything.

    Lynne :wall:
     
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    the best weddin mistake i witnessed was my sister tryin to say her vows and she couldnt pronounce most of them took her about 10 minutes to get them right she was so embarrased !! lol
     
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    LOL! Poor girl. As long as the wedding wasn't video taped it will stay at 10 minutes of embarrassment. If it WAS she's stuck with it forever. Maybe the video could have a mishap? :giveup:
     
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    My biggest mistake was getting married. ROFLMAO (ahem) Sorry! Don't let me spoil the mood for all the lovebirds out there.
     
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    I don't think it was the getting married part that was a mistake (at least in my case), the mistake was getting married to the wrong guy!
     
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    If two people find it important to be married to each other, then by all means, get married.

    You know me, I am still looking for couples who are happily married and have a wonderful relationship. I truly wish I was witness to it in my every day life.

    And don't anyone take my comment personally. I am simply saying that there is not one healthy, loving marriage that I see amongst family and friends. I'm not saying it doesn't exist. I'm saying I haven't personally witnessed it.
     
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    Take my work, they are out there. We've talked about a few that I know. But to be honest with you, seeing it first hand is not all it's cracked up to be. It can be depressing as well as inspiring. What do we always say? And what was in that "time" email you sent me yesterday? When it's our time to know or see something, we will, right?
     
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    I'd love to take your work off your hands, but I don't know diddly about real estate. (I couldn't resist....please don't smack me....Lynne has been smacking me silly)

    I always smile when I see people being affectionate or emotionally intimate. For instance, the other day I saw a young couple together and the way they looked at each other put a huge smile on my face.

    I'm not saying people can't be happy in relationships, I'm saying I don't think marriage has anything to do it.

    I see older couples bragging that they've been married for 50 years, and in their next breath they're arguing and completely annoyed with each other. I don't want that. I'd rather be by myself if I can't have love and respect.

    So many people get married because it's what society expects. I don't think many people see their partners for who they really are and then they get caught up in the fairy tale illusion of happily ever after and marry them.
     
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    ROFL! Oh dear, see what is happening to me!!!!!!

    No, marraige has nothing to do with it. Matter of fact, I probably know more un married couples that have been together over 30 years than married ones.

    Or rush into marraige for that matter. My parents are one of those couples that have been married for over 50 years (dated only 4 months) and are at each others throats constantly.

    But part of the "problem" is that the rules for marriage changed in the 60's, but social perception has not. And very few of us that came along after that were taught or even understand these new rules and thats why we're screwing up for all sorts of reasons.
     
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    THAT's exactly what I'm talking about! And good for them for choosing to be together everyday. :smlove2:
     
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    On my wedding day me and my hubby nearly got thrown out we couldnt stop laughin we had a double weddin with my best mate and my brother and it was video taped we watch it and cant stop laughin still lol
     
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    Oh my LOL, what caused the giggles!!!!!!!!!!!
     
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    every time i looked at my friend she looked that scared was a face u had to laugh at or i think she would have ran a mile lol
     
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    ROFL! You know what they say .... spare the rod, spoil the child

    (g,d,r,v,f)
     
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    hmmm was just telling you bout my wedding now my husband as asked me to do it all over again when we move to scotland lol lets hope this time it will go correctly with no hiccups lol
     
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    Oh wow, how romantic! Are you going to do it?
     
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    Yeah we gonna re do it hopefully the scottish style too will be nice
     
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    ROFLMAO! Yes....I've heard that somewhere before. Thank goodness I have you to keep me on the right path! :slap: